March’s article – reprinted with permission from the Gabriola Sounder email@example.com
“I know what it feels like to want to die. For me, it’s devastating to think that problems spiral out of control, that the best option is to kill myself. There are no other options. It wouldn’t make a difference anyway.”
Though some of us have a hard time imagining what it feels like to give up, for Seth (not his real name), it is a familiar feeling. Seth is presently a strong, independent man. At 29 years old, he lives with his new partner on Gabriola and thrives on the positive energy he absorbs here on the island. It wasn’t always like that for him though.
“My family life didn’t help me. I was picked on as a kid and I was never allowed to talk about my feelings. I had constant fear and an ongoing sense of loss. I always wanted to get away from it. In my worst moments, there seemed to be no other outlet than suicide. I never seemed to learn about other choices.
“My mom was there for me. We talked about things when events in my life made it difficult for me to go on. For me, talking helps a lot. I let people know how I feel and I ask them to talk to me. I realize now that many people feel sad. I can be helpful to them too.
“I love… video games, talking to others. On-line relationships help me get close to people faster. We talk about serious things.
“I realize, now, there really isn’t anything wrong with me. Now when I get depressed, I just talk to people I trust and those I know really care.”
Seth sounds like any of us. We all feel sad sometimes. We all need someone to talk to, and activities that make us happy. There are so many people on Gabriola who are caring, loving individuals. If you want to talk… there’s always someone who can listen!
In the meantime, if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide, here are some important phone numbers to note:
Let’s Talk – it gets better.